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How to Avoid Your Kid’s Tantrum

Kid’s inability to express themselves and lack of control over their emotions often leads them to throw temper tantrums.

Here are few ways you can avoid tantrums:

  • Reduce the triggers

As parents, you may notice that tantrums tend to happen at very specific times. They can repeatedly occur when you are on the phone, talking to a friend, shopping, or anytime when your attention is diverted from your child.

Keep an eye out for patterns that happen before your child throws a tantrum. If temper tantrums are common for your child, then it may help to prepare a chart to keep track of when they occur to determine what triggers them. You should be able to identify if the tantrum occurs when they are bored, when they are sleepy, when they are hungry, or when they are in a new environment. From there, you can find ways to distract or comfort them during such times.

  • Be consistent

Children do not handle change well, so try and be consistent with their daily routines so your child knows what to expect and doesn’t become anxious. Stick to their bedtimes and naptimes. You don’t want anything to make them cranky unnecessarily.

  • Prepare them in advance

If you’re doing something that isn’t a part of their regular routine, like taking them to new daycare or school or any unfamiliar environment, it’s best to have a short conversation with them in advance. Give your kids a chance to prepare themselves mentally and they’ll be less likely to throw a tantrum when they know what’s coming.

As you prepare them in advance, let them know how you expect them to behave when they are in the new settings too. You need to communicate your expectations clearly.

  • Let your children make some choices

Of course, the majority of the time children don’t make the best decisions for themselves, but you shouldn’t just say ‘no’ to them for everything. Children need to feel like they are in control every now and then. By letting them make small decisions for themselves, you are boosting their confidence. They begin to trust themselves more and they subconsciously understand that they need to be making responsible decisions.

  • Praise good behavior

A lot of the times, tantrums are a child’s way of getting attention. If you praise your child when they are behaving well, they no longer feel the urge to engage in deviant behavior just for the sake of getting your attention.

The next time your child listens to you, helps you, or shares something of theirs, reward them with affection. That way they will be more inclined to repeat that kind of positive behavior.

  • Don’t let them get too hungry

You don’t want to let your toddler get ‘hangry’ so keep them well fed. Feed them on time and always keep healthy snacks on hand, just in case.

  • Encourage your children to use words

Parents need to teach their children to express themselves using their words so they don’t resort to acting out. When you see them getting cranky, instead of ignoring them, ask them what’s bothering them and encourage them to use their words.

Even when you’re children are infants and cannot speak properly, try and get them to communicate using their signs.

  • Avoid saying maybe

Don’t lead your child on by saying ‘maybe,’ give them a firm ‘yes’ or ‘no.’  Young children don’t fully understand the concept of ‘maybe.’ It leaves room for them to negotiate so be clear with either a ‘yes’ or ‘no.’

Temper tantrums and how you deal with them shape your child’s personalities, so it is important to teach your child to control their emotions and to be sensitive to others.